February 2016

SHEVAT – ADAR I 5776

from Conversation Pieces

THE SOUNDS OF SISTERLY SILENCE

Thirty years ago, when I asked the woman sitting next to me at a bar mitzvah about her relationship to the family, she said the boy’s mother was her sister. I asked, “Why aren’t you sitting with the family?” She responded matter-of-factly, “We haven’t spoken in 15 years.”

I was completely bewildered. Who doesn’t speak to a sibling for 15 years?

Now, many years later, my oldest sister and I have not spoken in nearly 20 years. She survived breast cancer and I never wrote or called. Why? I still ask myself that question. When finally I did write her a few years later, I never heard a word in response.

I am still bewildered. Only now, I am also incredibly sad. At what point does the point become pointless?